By Hannah Patricia Abril | News Writer
Vol. XCI No. 13
Dec. 13, 2019
In just over a week, we will say goodbye to a decade that redefined all of us. Its tail-end, 2019, has probably been a lot to us. Refreshing, tragic, revival, pain, adventure, melancholic, and whatnots. The 2010’s for me was certainly a decade of growth. It has established my identity, character, and beliefs. Looking back, it might get a little emotional; the chances we missed, the decisions we regret, the choices that changed us, and the resolutions we failed to comply. I hope you did accomplish that 1-minute plank per day challenge.
Let’s face it, we’ve probably spent most of our time thinking and listing down our New Year’s resolutions instead of doing them. According to U.S. News & World Report, 80 percent of New Year’s resolutions fail by February. I, on the other hand, have stopped complying my god-forsaken resolutions by the next day or two. But did it stop me from making them? Of course not. If there’s one thing we all (except the real go-getters) have in common, it’s breaking the goals we have set upon ourselves. Why is that?
According to executive wellness coach and consultant Naz Beheshti in a Forbes online article, there are two reasons why our New Year’s resolution don’t last. First, we tend to underestimate how long (and exhausting) it takes to kick a bad habit and embrace a new one. In a study, it takes an average of 66 days for a new habit to become automatic.
Second, most of us tend to create ‘long lists of big habits we want to change’ such as losing or gaining weight, saving more money, and doubling our study hours. It might not come across our minds how such resolutions require extensive effort and time, failing to consider the small changes we can do here and now.
In just a quick Google search, we are able to access lifestyle sites and blogs about changing the way we make our resolutions; make easier ones, go for the challenge that you think that you could actually finish, and, sorry to make this sound mediocre, settle for less. Sometimes, we get too ambitious for our own good. If you’re fully aware of that, maybe it’s time to change your mind. Start living in the moment. As cliché as it sounds, it actually works for a lot of people.
When we live in the moment, it doesn’t mean we should stop planning ahead. It means that along the way, we should pay attention on the little things, especially the ones we could use for personal growth. Living in the moment would take us to focus on what makes us and others happy. To be grateful when good things come, and most especially during the bad. Finally, living in the moment means we should stop worrying what could happen ahead. It may be harder than it sounds, but trust me, worrying today won’t change what happens tomorrow.
It’s truly overwhelming. Before we know it, a new decade will soon be upon us. So, by now, I’d suggest you take a lot of pictures with the people in your life that matter the most. Freeze the moment with a click of a camera before time engulfs your reality. Dare yourself to confess to your crush, heck, dare yourself to confess to the person who’s been pissing you off lately. Maybe it’s time to acknowledge your feelings, and don’t feel sorry for doing so. Most importantly, be kind to others, and even kinder to yourself. Go with the flow; live in the moment. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year, Sillimanians!