AS I WAS SCROLLING MY NEWSFEED, I WAS APPALLED TO READ THE WORDS ‘HOUSE PANEL APPROVES DIVORCE BILL.’ AS ONE OF THE TWO REMAINING COUNTRIES IN THE WORLD THAT HAS NO DIVORCE LAW, IT IS HORRIFYING THAT PHILIPPINES IS NOW CONSIDERING IT. I WAS EVEN MORE SURPRISED OF A SWS SURVEY BACK IN 2015 WHICH SAID THAT 60% OF THE FILIPINOS AGREE TO THE LEGALIZATION OF DIVORCE.
Growing up, I believe that a man and a woman decide to get married because they wish to spend the rest of their lives together. The belief that marriage is a chance given to a couple to bring forth love in this world is an ideal that I still uphold up to this day. As one famous Filipino quote says, “Ang pag-aasawa ay hindi parang kanin na mainit na kapag isinubo mo at napaso ka ay iluluwa mo.”
For me, the greatest misconception about marriage is that it is not work. Being married is different from understanding and living the married life. Marriage is more than just a word, it is considered holy according to the Christian teaching because it is the union of a man and woman. It is the act of binding yourself to another individual in front of an officiator and the people who are important to both of you through your vows. The exchanged promises symbolize your devotion to that person and that person alone.
If the idea of divorce will become a reality, I’m afraid this will result to a change of view in marriage. I fear the day when the Filipinos will take marriage lightly, thinking there is a faster way of ending a relationship. Just because you are given a new chance in love doesn’t mean it will guarantee you long-lasting relationship. I still believe that marriage, like any relationship, is something you work hard for and not something you give up. The only consideration where one can file for divorce, as mentioned in the Bible, is when your spouse committed sexual immorality. Other reason than that is an act of adultery, the 7th in the 10 commandments.
As to what is stated in Mark 10:9, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Unless of course, it is by death.