YOU’RE SINGLE? ON VALENTINE’S DAY? YES, ME TOO. BUT, HEY, YOU HAVE YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS, PEERS AND YOUR DOG WHO LOVES YOU. YOU’RE THAT STRONG-INDEPENDENT WOMAN WHO DOESN’T NEED A MAN TO COMPLETE YOU. SOUNDS SIMPLE AND LAID-BACK, RIGHT? LET ME TELL YOU THE TRUTH OF BEING SINGLE ON THE HEART’S DAY.
February is the month I suppose girls in a relationship are being excited and jittery. Of course it’s the month of hearts and Valentine’s Day is the highlight of it. It means bouquets of roses, chocolates, heart-shaped balloons, candlelit dinner dates and if you’re lucky, a surprise trip to somewhere beautiful. Well, to single ladies, Feb. 14 is a typical day for school work, errands, making PowerPoint presentations or even binge-watching your favorite series while sipping your third cup of coffee because you don’t want to feel alone or you want to feel productive.
The stigma that society has set upon single girls that have no boyfriends or the old maid’s tale are somehow disappointing and very substandard. But can you force them to be in-a-relationship when they’re emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually not ready?I suppose you cannot. The influence of social media and how they affect us mentally by using the hashtag “goals” whenever there are photos posted by a couple can be a triggering factor why other girls are so pressured to have a romantic partner nowadays. We should keep in mind that not all couples who celebrate Valentine’s Day are happy. And just because you’re going solo to a movie, well, in fact that it’s Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean that you’re unhappy. You should practice self-love and give love more to yourself first in order to love someone else.
I’ve asked a tita why she’s been single for a very long time and she told me that love has left her. Same as the girl next door, I’ve asked her why she’s single when she is so pretty and smart and she told me that her top priority right now is her studies. You see, all of us have reasons why we cherry-picked the “single life.” Apparently, it is a matter of what’s more important to you at the moment. You may be prioritizing your studies first, building up your career, too busy with your on-booked travels or just simply not ready for the idea of being attached to someone in an intimate manner. Whatever your reasons, don’t forget that Valentine’s Day can be a day of self-love. Because Valentine’s day isn’t just for couples and lovers, it’s for us too…singles.