By Jesum Zerna
Achievements are often thought of as the very thing that defines an individual. Some people weigh you depending on the number of accomplishments you’ve attained.
If you have more, then expect yourself to be in the limelight or hall of fame. That would be a great feeling of course, a moment of victory that you could keep and remember for the rest of your life.
This is the same reason behind the existence of some people who do not permit losing nor even handling failure. This fear of failure is epidemic to a person’s happiness and well-being. It hampers a person to enjoy his/her life.
There are factors why some people are afraid of failure.
First, they may be perfectionists. Given that, failure was never an option to
them. If they are consistent honor students, for sure everything about school matters to them.
And so, they’ll always be anxious about getting high grades. And receiving a single low score out of 8 subjects might cause them frustration or worse, depression.
Here, the pressure to do well comes from nowhere else but from the individual’s perception on how things must be.
Second is, success runs in their blood.
When their family line includes geniuses and champions, of course there would always be an unseen pressure on their part, fearing that they might disappoint their family. Seeing a long list of aunts and uncles, cousins and far-off relatives bench-marking in their own fields, one cannot help but feel obliged to just do the same.
Third is, they want to prove something. This is due to lack of attention from family and friends.
And constant success in career or class makes them think that they will be loved and finally be the center of attraction. Whatever their motivations may be, they set to do everything to avoid failure.
However, success is not consistent and as for failure, it is inevitable. Whether be in school or career, family or relationship, there will always be an up and down phase in human’s life. You cannot have it all.
Don’t be afraid to fail. Don’t waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on to the next challenge. It’s OK to fail. If you’re not failing, you’re not growing. (H. Stanley Judd)